Use Sex Appeal to Boost Negotiations

(Warning, this article is not PG 13 rated!)

Have you ever considered the value that sex appeal has throughout a negotiation? Do you use it to boost your negotiation outcomes? Do you recognize the fact that sex appeal is prevalent in every negotiation? If you don’t, you should.

Here’s another potentially mind altering thought. It’s a recognized fact that, men and women do it differently… negotiate that is, but are you aware that sex appeal occurs when men are negotiating with other men and when women are negotiating with other women?

Before you become alarmed, let me state that I’m not indicating the emotional feelings you may have for the other negotiator, or the feelings he may possess for you, is one whereby either of you want to consummate the negotiation by performing an act of love. I’m speaking of sex appeal from one of the dictionary definitions which is, ‘stimulating attractiveness’. Some might call it an admiration you possess, but without ‘going Freudian’, I submit that there’s a lot more to the allure that you can emit and receive as the result of the appeal you and the other negotiator have for one another.

So, how do you maximize your sex appeal during a negotiation? You can start by utilizing the following strategies.

· Create an amorous environment by being somewhat appealing when negotiating. I’m not implying you should be unprofessional, or through your actions imply that there’s ‘more to come’, outside of that for which you’re negotiating. I’m suggesting, by being aware of the appeal that exist within the negotiation, you can increase the bonding process and enhance the overall flow of the negotiation.

· Have you ever liked someone so much that they made you like yourself more? Psychologically, you transferred the likable trait from the other person to yourself. In so doing, to a degree, you became like that person. When you sense someone wants to assume traits you possess, use your appeal to allow such conveyance to occur. By doing so, you’ll increase your sex appeal.

· It’s already a known fact that men and women negotiate differently. That’s not to imply that either sex should use their body to become advantaged during negotiations, but in reality they do. They do so through the smile that conveys a sentiment, a gesture that highlights agreement with a proposal, and by the manner in which they hold themselves (body language), when negotiating. Such gestures convey insight into the mental state of mind the person with whom you’re negotiating possess at that moment. Pay attention to such signals and be prepared to incorporate them in your efforts to enhance your sex appeal.

The above strategies may be difficult for some to master and implement. Once you do master the above strategies, you’ll have another strong negotiation tool from which to gain an additional advantage… and everything will be right with the world.

The Negotiation Tips Are…

· When negotiating, assess the characteristics you possess and consider what can be perceived as an allure by the other negotiator. Then, consider using that allure during the negotiations.

· Body language plays an enormous role in projecting sex appeal into a negotiation. Be cautious about crossing an imaginary line that implies there’s more to your body language intentions than what is meant.

· If you sense that misguided intentions are perceived as the result of your sex appeal being misconstrued, set the record straight sooner versus later. Don’t let sex appeal cast you in an unprofessional light.

4 Common Reasons Why a Married Woman Loses Motivation About Having Sex With Her Husband

If asked what was more important to you, which option would you pick: cuddling with your husband or having sex him?

While many of us would say “Cuddling,” our husbands would probably take the sex!

Why?

For one, most men are more body-centered and sexually motivated than women. And we, on the other hand, are more relational and emotional.

While men will give affection to get sex, women will give sex to get affection. This difference of opinions can often cause conflict within the marriage.

I have often asked God why sex is so important to men, but not as much to women. One person said that if both the husband and wife had the same motivation about sex, nothing would ever get done. The kids, the house, and the dog would be neglected.

So God created us to balance one another out when it comes to our approach on sex. With this being said, one of the most major parts of marriage is sex. However, many women don’t enjoy sex and could ultimately live their entire lives without ever having sex with their husbands.

Below you will find four common reasons why women often lose motivation about having sex with their husbands:

1) Emotions. Women tend to be very emotional at different points in their lives. Much of it is hormonal, but some of it can be cultural or familial. For example, if a woman’s mother often allowed her hormones to rule her to where she was often “touchy” and sensitive about different situations, chances are this woman will learn to allow her hormones to rule her unless she makes a decision to rule her emotions instead.

2) Fatigue. As women, we are often a primary care giver for the children, especially if we stay at home. This role of being there for our children, (whether we work inside or outside of the home), is not uncommon because we are born nurturers. There’s also housework, mental fatigue, and many other things that can drain our energy throughout the day.

3) Preoccupation. In addition to being deprived of energy, we can become easily distracted when it comes to focusing on sex. Whether it’s a crying baby or a phone call we often establish a habit of allowing other things to take priority over our love lives.

4) Stress. Our emotions and preoccupation can build up which will ultimately lead to stress. What is stress? One dictionary calls stress a state of mental tension that causes feelings of worry or anxiety. Stress will completely cause any passion we have for our husbands to disappear because whatever we stress over will become our focal point in lives, and ultimately to take priority over having sex.

Emotions, fatigue, preoccupation, and stress are a common part of life. However, there are ways that we can put each one into proper perspective so we can obtain balance and experience an extraordinary sex life within the marriage relationship.

Sex, Relationship and Health – Five Benefits of Sex

Sex is not just about raging hormones and fleeting pleasure. As a matter of fact, sex has a lot more to offer than you know. The more sex you have, the greater the benefits you receive from it. Modern science has proved that sex has wonderful benefits for your mental as well as physical well being. Indulging in sexual activity on a regular if not daily basis is known to offer benefits such as relief from stress, better sleep, and better health. These benefits, however, are just the tip of the iceberg. Read on to know some of the not so well known reasons why regular sex can make your life healthier and happier.

Sex helps to maintain body weight

Sex is a physically strenuous activity that helps you shed the extra pounds and look younger and healthier. 30 minutes of sex helps to burn about 150-200 calories. This does not sound like much but regular sex sessions help to burn many more calories. 42 sex sessions of 30 minutes each, for instance, can burn more than 3500 calories, which is quite substantial. Set up a schedule for sexual exercise and watch the flab melt away as you and your partner have fun. Sex is a great weight loss technique if your busy lifestyle leaves no time for workouts. It is also a fun way to get in shape when treadmills or aerobics get too boring.

Sex improves the immune system

Being sexually healthy usually means that you have great physical health too. Having sex twice or thrice a week has been associated with higher levels of immunoglobulin A (IgA) – an antibody that protects an individual from the common cold and other infectious diseases. IgA binds itself to pathogens when they try to enter your body and then boosts the immune system in order to destroy them. Those couples, who have sex regularly, about once or twice a week, have been reported to have higher levels of IgA than those who abstained from sex altogether or those who rarely indulged in sexual activity of any kind.

Sex can create a stronger bond between partners

Apart from its reproductive function, sex is often used as an instrument of pleasure and to express the emotional intimacy and love that you feel for your partner. Sexual intercourse is known to have a major role in bonding between partners and a means to share your pleasure. Great sex forms an emotional connection and awareness between you and your partner, while discussing your sex life can add a wider emotional and spiritual perspective to your relationship, resulting into a strengthened and resilient bond that can be strong enough to survive many emotional upheavals.

Sex improves the blood circulation

Regular sexual activity has been proved to improve blood circulation in your body and is particularly beneficial for the brain because it causes deep invigorating breaths and an increased heart rate. Improved circulation brings fresh oxygen-rich blood into your body and refreshes the cells and organs. Regular sex helps in the elimination of toxins from your body and prevents fatigue as well as a number of diseases.

Sex controls sugar levels

A number of clinical studies have proved that sexual activity helps in the breakdown of sugar molecules present in your body in order to provide protection from serious diseases such as diabetes.

Are You Cursing Your Sex Life?

“Our sex life is terrible.”

“My wife is draining the life out of me by refusing me all the time.”

“It would be just fine with me if we never had sex again.”

“How can I not feel like crap when he never desires me?”

“All he cares about is sex, sex, sex.”

Variations of these complaints come across my inbox every day. I understand.

And yet…

It occurs to me that sometimes the words I’m seeing in my inbox or hearing from someone’s mouth have been rehearsed. Again. And again.

Have you ever been so angry/hurt/disappointed that you found yourself stewing over your mate’s faults? Have you felt that you would find relief by somehow articulating just how bad it really is? In fact, you can find yourself blind to all that is good and meditate on all that is bad, crappy, sexless.

It’s easy to do.

And you are welcome to do it.

However, words carry power.

Words stir up our heart in a certain direction.

Words galvanize the meaning we give to experiences.

Really – we could just as easily speak different words, rearrange our focus, and come up with different meaning about the issues we face.

We can’t change the past, but we can change the meaning we give to past events, and transform our reality.

But what do “blessing” and “cursing” really mean?

There are dictionary definitions for these terms, but for our purpose I’m going to define the words like this:

  • Bless – verb: to release life, happiness, healing and wholeness to a situation or person, more specifically, to release a situation or a person to the very will of God.
  • Curse – verb: to speak death, misery, sickness, or human judgment, against a situation or person.

What we often don’t realize is that when we take it upon ourselves to be the releaser of the curse, we take that situation out of God’s hands and into our own.

God is a curse breaker. His ways are infinitely above ours.

Here’s the rub:

Very often “calling it like we see it,” is nothing more than cursing cloaked as observation.

Faith does not call it like it is. Faith calls those things that are NOT as though they were.

This is as true in our sex life as anywhere.

So, here is your mission, should you choose to accept it:

Stop cursing your sex life.

Stop pointing out to yourself all this is wrong with your mate, or even your self.

Call forth what you’d like to see, what you believe is truly the highest plan for your marriage.

It’s impossible to do so without an accompanying feeling of gratitude.

Let’s give examples from above.

Instead of,

“Our sex life is terrible.”

Say, feel and lay hold of – “Our sex life is turning around, even when I can’t see how!”

Instead of,

“My wife is draining the life out of me by refusing me all the time.”

Say, feel and be open to:

“Even though I’ve taken things personally in the past, I am seeing how to become more and more attractive to my wife.”

“All these issues are part of our success story.”

“I love that woman and she loves me.”

You get the idea.

I am not saying this will be easy.

Not saying you won’t feel like a liar.

But even if you WERE lying, did you know that a lie heard often enough becomes believed as truth? Why not “brainwash” yourself with life-giving thoughts?

For just 2 weeks, ask for your eyes to be opened to how often you release the curse.

Make the decision to release blessing.

I had to do this when my husband came home from the Gulf. After the first month, the adjustment to each other was suddenly unbelievably awkward.

I’ll talk more about that another time.

The good news is, we are stronger than ever, and you can be too.